Positivity: 11 Ways To Build Your Optimism

Positive psychology can impact on the quality of your life. If your mind feels drawn to the dark depths of negativity—don’t despair. You can change your mental attitude by an effort of will. And that’s not all. I’m going to show you how to do it. It may take a little effort, but the steps are simple.

In the 1940’s, the Nazis condemned a psychiatrist called Viktor Frankl to their brutal death camps. He experienced horrible things. Apart from his sister, his entire family died. He himself suffered from torture and various indignities.

One day, when he was naked, afraid, and locked in a tiny room, he discovered something remarkable. It changed his life. It changed the lives of millions of people. He discovered that between the point of stimulus and response there exists choice.

This gap of conscious thought creates freedom.

The freedom to approach any situation with positivity and to choose the most desirable outcomes. For example, during torture, pain, and suffering, Viktor projected himself into different settings. This change in mental setting gave him, not the Nazis, power over his response. One day, he would imagine being in his lecture room with his students, the next he would visualize himself reciting a speech in front of thousands of individuals.

This balance of positivity and impressive visualization empowered him. It gave him absolute freedom. No one can take that kind of freedom away. The best part is he later taught his principles to millions of folks around the world, becoming one of the leading psychiatrists of his day.

My friend, this freedom of conscious deliberation allows you to structure proactive responses in any given situation. You can alter your path. Change direction. Nothing is predefined. This viewpoint makes room for positivity in your life. A positive approach marks the beginning of true happiness. This newly discovered happiness triggers a chain reaction that brings more positivity into your life. It encourages desirable outcomes, fulfilling relationships, and a longer, more fruitful life.

Viktor lost a lot in those concentration camps. But he also gained a lot by staying positive. And look at him, he came out on top. He took responsibility for his life and the outcomes within it, and you know what? — You can too.

Why practice positive psychology?

For starters, positive psychology explores, examines, and identifies different scientific studies and methods. These methods help you discover more self-worth, live a happier life, and pursue aspiring goals. In other words, it’s an effective way to find more meaning, purpose, and direction.

The good news is this approach addresses both the strengths and weaknesses at the core of your personality. You’ll learn how to develop the finest aspects in your character, as well as repair the worst. In turn, you’ll find greater equilibrium and stability.

Positive psychology helps you develop critical character traits. These character traits enhance your performance and lead to a happier life. Whether you realize it or not, you have a choice as to how your life pans out. You can hack the patterns that influence your direction, and then rewire them.


An unlikely example of how positivity, thought, and emotion can affect the world around you.

Normally, when you look at a container of yoghurt, you don’t think much of it. The truth is it’s a living system, scientifically, and you can measure the energy that comes off it. The reason I’m telling you this is to show you how much of an effect your thoughts have on your own health and the people around you.

In the following video, a scientist hooks a container of yoghurt up to a magnetometer to get a baseline reading. Then, they have Tom Shadyac, who is not hooked up to the yoghurt, think of something that affects him in an emotional way, e.g. a sad thing or an exciting thing. Strangely, as his moods and emotions changed, the energy of the yoghurt changed.

Have a look at the video:

Now, the reason they did this study is to show how powerfully you can affect not only living things like yogurt or the bacteria in your gut, but also the people around you. You know intuitively that if you interact with people while in a negative mood, you can bring them down. However, if you approach them with a positive, kind, and loving attitude, you can elevate them and yourself into a higher state of happiness.

So, dear reader, you have the power to adopt the science of positivity, today. You have the power to affect your inner peace, health and happiness. You have the power to choose your outcomes. You have that power lying within you. Let’s awaken it.

Read these 11 simple steps to grow your happiness through the power of positivity.

Below are 11 steps to grow happy through positive psychology. I can’t say they’ll all work for you immediately. You shouldn’t expect them to either.

Instead, choose one or two that resonate with you and work on them for a few days or weeks. When you see the benefits, move onto another point, and another, and another, until you finally realize you’ve reached the point of happiness. Happiness is cumulative.

1. Intrinsic motivation will help you recapture drive, ambition, and willpower.

In my teenage years, I loved to learn. I gulped down books like they were glasses of water. I had a curious nature, like a baby touching everything for the first time. It was magical. Then something happened. I lost motivation. I lost curiosity. I lost ambition. I stopped caring about growth and I focused more on fitting in, on being conventional, on being normal.

Pay attention, because the world doesn’t need more conventional people. It has enough of them already. The world needs unconventional people. The unconventional people are the movers, shakers, and creators. Only through creation can we move forward. This creative energy is the wick in the candle of humanity’s evolution.

So, what caused this shift from positivity to lethargy? It boils down to intrinsic motivation—the natural curiosity, desire, and craving to learn and evolve. You and I are both born with it. Sadly, a lot of us lose it along the way. As babies we touch, observe, and explore. As kids, we ask why things are as they are, why things work the way they do, and what it means for us. It’s a positive approach to life. It drips with potential for growth and progress.

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To increase intrinsic motivation, you must develop the unique aspects of your character. The aspects that may seem odd, weird, or different. They set you apart and free your creative energy. Your values and character traits should stem from your own reflection, not adopted blindly from your parents, mentors, and teachers.

Blind acceptance of normality only serves to cripple your uniqueness, individuality, and exceptionality. You lose the unconventional character traits required to thrive as a creative genius. Instead, identify the things that excite you. That inspire you. That make you want to sleep faster so you can get back to creating wonderful things in the morning.

To maintain intrinsic motivation, you need to change what drives you. Rewards, for example, switch off intrinsic motivation because when you learn to do things for the payoff, you lose touch with the things that truly inspire, excite, and energize you. On the other hand, if you choose the unconventional route, you remove a lot of social pressure. You do what you love as your reward. You free your mind to pursue a spirit of enquiry.[/box]

2. Positive biochemistry will provide you with more motivation, significance, and joy.

A positive mind state changes your biochemistry. It affects three neurotransmitters in particular. They link to happiness, motivation, and the desire for self-evolution. They include dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins.

Your happiness depends largely on this biochemical cocktail. Luckily, you can trigger them by-yourself, no external stimulus needed. Let’s take look at each neurotransmitter, how it affects your biochemistry, and you can get it pumping through your veins.


Dopamine drives your growth. It increases motivation and propels you towards your goals, dreams, and aspirations. As you strike down goals like a sniper, it injects shots of happiness into your brain. This happiness shot acts as reinforcement, telling you to keep doing what you’re doing because it works.

But get this… if your enthusiasm drops, then doubt grips your every move. Procrastination takes command of your life. Dopamine levels take a nosedive. At this point, you lose motivation. You start taking the easy options in life, instead of putting in the effort for much greater rewards.

Believe me, raising dopamine helps you reach you goals much faster. As you can imagine, a lack of motivation won’t get you far. You give up early and simply wallow in self-pity, blame, and carefully articulated excuses. Avoid that path and raise your dopamine levels by following the instructions below.

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To raise your dopamine levels, take your biggest current goal and split it into bite-size tasks. These tasks should stay small enough to achieve on daily basis. As result, you speedily chip away at BIG task and preserved your dopamine at the same time.

This simple method sets you up for what’s called quick wins. Quick wins (as you can imagine) help your brain release dopamine at regular intervals, instead of restricting the flow until the big task finishes. It’s like being in a 20-mile marathon and having the crowd cheer you on every few miles. It gives you the much-needed pump to keep moving and motivated.

But first a warning: you want to avoid what’s called a dopamine hangover. It’s when you finish all your tasks with nothing left to fuel your motivation. To avoid this, create new goals before achieving your current one. That ensures a continual flow for experiencing dopamine. I suggest you keep three to five bite-size tasks in the pipeline, at all times. That way, you maintain a continuous flow of quick-wins, keep your dopamine buzzing, and hold your productivity high.[/box]


Serotonin stops flowing when you feel insignificant or unimportant. Without ample serotonin, feelings of sadness, loneliness, and depression begin to manifest. If you display attention-seeking behavior, then you likely crave the benefits of serotonin. In fact, if you display attention seeking behavior, then you’re likely unhappy and on antidepressants, because most antidepressants focus on the production of serotonin, as Barry Jacobs of Princeton University explains.

You can see why dis-heartened folks with low levels of serotonin end up in gangs and other criminal groups. They crave the community culture and feelings of unity, comradeship, and brotherhood that these groups provide. In turn, their sense of significance surges, facilitating the release of serotonin.

Of course, you should never resort to criminal groups and activities to raise your serotonin. You can amass even higher levels from positive and inspiring communities and groups. That’s a big part of EarthUnchained. It’s a place where you can meet like-minded people, appreciate one another’s unique gifts, and foster a sense of oneness.

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To raise serotonin, understand that your brain struggles to tell the difference between what’s real and what’s imaginary. Therefore, if you reimagine your greatest achievements, triumphs, and accomplishments, then your brain relives the experience as if it were real. And get this… your body turns into a serotonin production line, pumping serotonin on demand… tell me you wouldn’t love that!

And that’s not all. You can increase serotonin production via gratitude journals. They remind you to stay appreciative of life. Simply jot down what you’re grateful for each day. Simple. When you’re done, head out to get some sun.

Why? Because that spherical ball of hot plasma can boost your serotonin like crazy. Grab your lunch, skip the cafeteria, and suck in that sunshine. It stimulates both serotonin and vitamin D production. But be careful, because too much sun can harm your health. Everything in Moderation.[/box]


Healthy relationships. You want them. I want them. Heck, everybody wants them. But how to you get them flourishing in the first place.

Here’s the secret—relationships are like a soup. You need the right ingredients if you want it to taste just right. However, you first need to buy those ingredients. That’s where oxytocin comes into play. It’s your local supermarket. It gives you access to ingredients such as, but not limited to, love, kindness, trust, affection, intimacy, caring, and tenderness. You have access to these ingredients through an ample supply of oxytocin.

As you know, neurotransmitters flow through your brain. Oxytocin represents one of the more powerful ones. To excrete it naturally, you need specific steps to stimulate it.

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To establish strong connections and improved relationships you need ample oxytocin production. In fact, scientists consider oxytocin as the “cuddle hormone,” because simply giving someone a hug boosts it significantly.

And remember, you need to hold the hug for at least 20 seconds. It might seem awkward at the 10-second mark, especially if the receiver doesn’t know why your holding on for dare life, but keep going for oxytocin’s sake. Dr. Paul Zak explains that touch between two people, not only raises your oxytocin but also reduces cardiovascular stress and improves your immune system. Dr. Zak recommends at least eight BIG hugs per day to get the full benefits.

In general, you can raise oxytocin through touch anywhere on your body. The trick is to focus on positive interactions and psychological support, such as holding hands, kissing and hugging, giving and receiving a massage or back rub, nurturing others, and spending quality time with loved ones. As an oxytocin fuelled beacon of love and light, you’ll inspire others to raise their oxytocin levels, too.[/box]


Endorphins circulate as a response to pain, stress, fear, worry, anxiety, and even depression. If you think back to the last time you exercised, you might remember a happy buzz you felt afterward. Scientists call this buzz the “runners high,” because extended exertion releases a healthy dose of endorphins.

Endorphins block pain, but they also stimulate feelings of pleasure. They let you know when you’ve had enough of a good thing. I’m talking about things like sex, food, or intimacy. Best of all, it encourages you to go after that good thing to regularly experience the pleasure.

As a matter of fact, this powerful neurotransmitter also enhances your immune response. Therefore, with free-flowing, high endorphin levels, you feel less pain, more happiness, and fewer negative effects of stress. Sounds good to me.

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An exercise of any kind raises endorphins. Now, you might not enjoy exercise, so don’t think of it like that. It’s simply a fun activity you do daily to trigger your endorphin response and look fabulous at the same time.

And we don’t stop there. I want to see you laughing more. It’s the easiest way to stimulate endorphin production. It’s even easier than exercise. Even if you simply anticipate or conjure the image of laughter your endorphins will rise.

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3. A positive emotional state will help you achieve stellar performance enhancements.

The human emotional state. We all find it difficult to harness. However, when you do, colors become brighter, sensations become stronger, light shines through your psychological darkness, illuminating your trials and tribulations. You enhance performance and live a more proactive life.

Emotions connect to perspective. This happens via a cause-and-effect relationship, as Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, a prominent psychology professor explains. Simply put, when you raise emotional positivity (through the likes of gratitude, love, hope, and optimism), then you simultaneously broaden your perspective. Fredrickson refers to research from Brandeis University to reinforce her claims. There, researchers applied sophisticated eye-tracking technology to prove that positive emotions really can broaden people’s visual attention.

So, how does this increase your performance? Well, I mentioned earlier about being creative and not conventional. Therefore, if you cultivate a positive emotional state and a positive approach to thought and circumstance, then you increase the creative reserves that lead to stellar performance enhancements. Let’s take a closer look how that’s done.

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Imagination. It’s a wonderful thing. I talk about it a lot because it works remarkably well. In fact, evidence shows that simply imagining a happy memory can greatly improve how you locate, and apply creative solutions to your daily problems.

A small act of kindness works, too. Not necessarily from someone else. Just from yourself. For example, give your self a small gift, even as simple as a healthy treat. It helps you identify and integrate relevant information better and make smarter decisions, both in your personal and work life.

Decisions are inevitable. You need to make them. So, choose to make them superior, through positivity. Positive decision-making makes you more accurate, more careful, and more effective interpersonally. This spreads positivity within your family, work, and social life, which in turn produces better collaboration.[/box]

4. Gratitude will make you a brighter, happier, and more thankful person.

Everyone talks about it. Its popularity grows by the day. It builds a pleasant cycle of positivity in your life. I’m talking about the art of expressing gratitude.

Gratitude is a fruit of great cultivation. You do not find it among gross people. – Dr. Samuel Johnson

Gratitude helps you see the world differently. For example, if you’re ungrateful you focus on deprivation, doubt, cynicism, regret, lack, scarcity, blame, and loss. On the other hand, if you adopt a grateful approach you focus more on abundance, prosperity, blessings, giving, kindness, reciprocity, and gifting.

Overall, gratitude prompts positive outcomes. Just keep one thing in mind. Stay specific. The more specific you thoughts are, the greater the effect will be. For instance, instead of saying, “I’m grateful for my puppy,” you’d say, “I’m grateful for my puppy, because she gives me love and joy each day.”

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Gratitude is a habit. A habit you need to practice everyday. I want you to feel its positive influence. In order to do that, you must recognize the good around you. I want to you to pay attention to all the little miracles. Opportunities. Relationships. Mother Nature. Everything. Millions of things call for your gratitude. You just need to look. When you find them, say thank you, and if you can, reciprocate.

Now, I’ve said this before, but I’ll say it again. Start a gratitude diary. Amongst other things, gratitude plays a vital role in my daily personal empowerment journal (P.E.J). I simply write three things I’m grateful for every morning at about 5:15am, right after meditation and before I go down to the beach for swim.

Think broadly about the things you appreciate, but stay specific. Mahatma Gandhi once said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” This applies to being a model for gratitude. Be a model of appreciation. Both at work and at home. Be thankful frequently and do it from the heart.[/box]

5. Curiosity will drive your growth, transformation, and evolution.

Curiosity takes you places. It drives your journey of discovery. It frees your mind to explore. It teaches you about honesty. Honesty about what you know and what you don’t know. It awards you courage, so you can pursue extraordinary, new possibilities.

As a child, you were likely curious. Curious about nature. Curious about relationships. Curious about everything, really. This curiosity surfaced because you knew, whether subconsciously or otherwise, that your brain required more information. I don’t mean intelligence because intelligence doesn’t equal curiosity. Curiosity is multifaceted and dynamic. You can display intellectual curiosity, social curiosity, or exhibit curiosity related to a specific task.

Curiosity plays an important role in positive psychology. It acts as a source of inspiration, motivation, and drive. Curious people generally thrive because they exhibit courage, bravery, and social awareness. Studies show that, regardless of your IQ, exhibiting curiosity may lead to cognitive and educational improvements leading to a greater quality of life.

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Live curiously by adopting a curious nature. You can start by opening your mind to new things, such as new possibilities, new experiences, and new relationships. Be a yes-man, like in that movie starring Jim Carrey. New experiences trigger curiosity and start the engines of desire, exploration, and discovery.

Knowledge acquisition builds curiosity. The more knowledge fills your brain, the more curious you become. Read more books and watch less TV. In any situation, feel free to ask questions that deepen your understanding of life. Don’t be shy. Just do it. You’ll be so glad you did.

And remember, there are millions of interesting people in the world. They hold a wealth of knowledge. With the help of curiosity, you can tap into these information goldmines and radically improve your life. I know that when I started pushing the boundaries of my curious nature, the world opened its doors and glowing positivity came flooding in.[/box]

6. Grit will make you persevere and stay energized towards long-term ambitions.

Grit. It helps you persist, push, and win. It helps you knock down demanding tasks as though you were hitting strikes at your local bowling alley. It plays a critical role in positive psychology by pushing you to succeed where it means the most to you.

However, its complexity makes it hard to obtain. You see, grit doesn’t stand by itself. It ties into other positive mindsets and skills, such as optimism, growth, purpose, strength of mind, and even self-control.

Grit is more than just feeling encouraged or inspired. It’s about finding your deepest passion. Passion makes grit a breeze. You stick to the things that you feel passionate about and you stay dedicated to them, sometimes for your entire life. That’s what you want, the ability to make grit a habit by pursuing the passion in your heart.

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When you combine passion and persistence—you get grit. Grit grows when you finish what you start. Bad habits cultivate when you leave tasks unfinished or even half finished. Your goals require total commitment and always follow through to the end.

Fact is, you probably experienced failure at some point. That’s awesome. Failure means you moved forward. I like to say, “Fail as fast as you can,” because the faster you fail, dust yourself off, and try again, the faster you a discover what works and the faster you realize your dream.

Next time you experience failure—push on. Work harder. Even if you feel like throwing in the towel and giving up. Dissect you worries and your troubles and find a solution. Reframe your problems and turn them into something you can win. Get back in the game, where you truly belong.[/box]

7. A growth mindset will help you increase your intelligence.

When you adopt a growth mindset, you recognize that you can develop, nurture, and expand your intelligence. You believe that, through practice and perseverance, you can become smarter and succeed where you might’ve otherwise failed. If you struggle with something today, it doesn’t mean that you‘re useless or anything like that. It is, in fact, an opportunity to upgrade and evolve your inner-self.

If you need help making progress in a certain area, then search for someone with the relevant information. You can always find a mentor or teacher. In most cases, they are happy to give you information free—you just need to ask.

But, I’ll tell you what: never, and I repeat, NEVER compare your growth to others. Your abilities are different to everyone else. You are unique in that aspect. It depends largely on the domain you’re in. You may find strength in one aspect of your life, but notice weakness in another. It’s the same with everyone, so focus on what you can do to improve yourself and leave others to their own.

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You can strengthen your intellectual ability in areas of weakness. Your ability can and will grow, but you must believe it. Your effort today benefits you tomorrow. Even if at times things seem too difficult to bear. And like any muscle, your brain needs the right fuel to grow. Over time it gets stronger, so strong, in fact, that no challenge overwhelms you and the only limitation is the limitation you set for yourself.

Life will challenge you. Sometimes more than others. But you know what? Regardless of the challenges you face, approach them with an heir of optimism and positivity. Throughout the learning process, feel free to talk about your newly acquired knowledge with others, because most of the time people appreciate it

And don’t forget, if you catch yourself saying, “I can’t do this,” or anything along those lines, then stop and include the word, “Yet”. It reminds you of one important factor: you, my friend, have the capacity to achieve phenomenal, positively inspiring things in your life.[/box]

8. Optimism will draw your desired outcomes towards you.

Optimism. It’s informed positivity with a touch of hopefulness about a future outcome. Optimism calls for a strong mindset and continuous action, otherwise, it won’t work in your favor.

With optimism, your feelings and thoughts still vary from positive to negative. Why? Because as a human being it’s normal to exhibit emotion. However, as an optimist, you remain aware that bad times pass. Instead, you look for empowerment in any given situation. You employ mental clarity, effort, and strategy to regain control when everything appears lost.

But don’t get me wrong. Optimism is not blind positivity. With blind positivity, you disregard the negative, even if it directly affects you. That’s not optimism. Optimism is about empowerment and making things happen, as you want them to.

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Believe it or not, you can improve your future. But you have to make the decision to change. Just put in 20% more effort per day towards your mission and keep hope and positivity alive. You may be surprised at the outcome.

The caveat: you must stay focused on solutions, opportunities, and the most efficient methods of moving forward. The way I see it, you have two choices. You can look at your circumstances either optimistically or pessimistically, the latter absolves you of responsibility and destroys growth.

Life always gets challenging. The light may appear wrapped in darkness. You might feel backed into a corner with no way out. But stay calm and focused on your mission. Write it down and stay inspired. Think positive thoughts and you’ll get to where you want to be.[/box]

9. Self-control will help you gain power over instincts and emotional self-destruction.

Self-control. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t want more. When you gain self-control, you master your responses. These highly attuned responses align with your short and long-term goals. They act as a driving factor establishing a positive mental state.

Don’t get me wrong. Self-control doesn’t mean you should be compliant or obedient. It does, however, involve harnessing energy and directing it towards your objectives. I’ll discuss two forms of self-control. Self-control in your personal life and self-control in your work life.

Let’s start with your work life. Self-control in your work life helps you stick to short and long-term goals, even if a task seems boring or difficult. It won’t matter to you. You overpower instinctive feelings, emotions, and responses and charge towards your goals like a wild bull in heat.

Next, you have self-control in your personal life. This includes control over your temper, emotion, impulse, and your ability to listen without responding. Self-control gives you the power to prioritize goals over temptation, such as working on progressive tasks instead of playing on Facebook.

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In regards to the workplace, start by limiting distractions. Your workspace should have the things you need for an immediate task and nothing else. Next, you’ll want to define a success path for your task,i.e, from A to B; it will help you stay on track. Then, add a timeframe so that you don’t beat around the bush.

In your personal life, stay calm and composed. Meditation can help with that. Be aware of impulsive movements from your body. Keep them to a minimum because it not only conserves energy, but it trains your focus and self-control. If someone criticises you,  keep calm and collected. Resist the urge to retaliate. You’ll hurt yourself more than you hurt them. Instead, stay composed and transmute that hot energy into positive inspiration to crush your goals.

Cognitive self-instructional (SI) training can also increase your self-control. Simply talk to yourself, giving yourself instructions on what to do. Initially, you should do this overtly and then move to covertly. I use this method often because clarify what needs to be done.[/box]

10. Social and emotional intelligence will help you make progressive choices the draw greater happiness.

If you exhibit social and emotional intelligence, then you find it easy to identify with peoples feelings and emotions. You use their bodily cues, signals, and prompts to make smarter decisions and actions about the relationship.

People’s feelings and emotions appear to you like pictures in a book; they simply pop out. You draw strength from this insight and use it to adapt with positivity to any situation. It feels like a game of chess, only you can see your opponents move in advance. You chew on the emotion around you. You analyze and observe it, slowly and carefully. Then, when you’re ready, you take a calculated step.

You notice people’s problems. You understand them. They don’t know why, but they feel like you empathize with them, like you’re part of them. If you say something that causes distress or discomfort, you notice it early, both in body language and change in energy. You are deeply aware of every situation, which frees you to thrive in various settings and relationships. This is social and emotional intelligence.

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To increase social and emotional intelligence you need to become solution focused. If someone approaches you with a problem, listen to them carefully before you respond. When you do respond, respond with a solution to encourage positivity. It’s easy to dismiss a problem straightway. It’s a lot harder to give someone the time of day to share their thoughts and feelings.

While listening to someone, make eye contact, be authentic, and show support and enthusiasm. You should always respect others feelings. If they pull you towards internal or emotional politics, it doesn’t mean you should get involved. You should aim to preserve the dignity of both yourself and the person you are talking to.

On another note, the most successful organisms on Earth are the ones that adapt the fastest. For that reason, you should stay focused on adapting yourself to your party and the situation. Spot social queues early, get to know the etiquette and expectations, and conduct yourself with poise.[/box]

11. The UpRatio will energize your positive attitude and help you live a fulfilling life.

The 3-to-1 ratio (or the UpRatio, as I like to call it) applies to your overall happiness. It’s a mathematical formula that reflects the ratio of positive thoughts to negative. The theory suggests that you must have three positive thoughts or emotions for every one negative in order to flourish. It’s a definitive tipping point for thriving, happiness, and positivity in your life.

And that’s just the beginning. The UpRatio can help you overcome your brain’s natural negativity bias. In other words, You’ll learn how to internalize positive experiences much deeper—while minimizing the poisonous physical and psychological effects of mulling over the negative.

For years, research has shown that, over time, your experiences can literally reshape your brain and can change your nervous systems, for better or worse. Now, neuroscientists and psychologists are zeroing in on how you and I can take advantage of this “plasticity” of the brain to cultivate and sustain positive emotions and live a brighter, happier existance.

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The UpRatio is a critical step in finding more positivity and happiness. The best part is you can start immediately. When you catch a negative thought knocking at your mental door, simply give it the boot and follow it up with three positive ones. It’s really that simple.

It won’t take long to become a habit and you can start changing your nervous system for the better. I’ve been applying the UpRatio for over a year now. I never felt more high-powered and spirited. If I stay in the UpRatio my life stays on right track. Sometimes I get a string of negative thoughts and I get a bit derailed, but having a formula to fall back always sets me straight.

The UpRatio helps you conceptualize happiness. It fuels your positivity and provides you with a concrete formula to follow. Regardless of the mathematics behind the theory, you will never be worse off thinking a positive thought over a negative one.[/box]


Positivity can have an enormous impact in your day-to-day life. You may have financial troubles. You may suffer from illness. You may suffer from rejection or self-esteem issues. But that’s not the argument. These things happen in life. The important thing is to focus on opportunities that empower you to live a positive and happy life. Not the things that did go wrong or could go wrong.

At the end of the day, you choose how you feel. It’s fine to be upset when something bad happens. But, avoid becoming trapped in a negative vortex. Even folks with what appears to be a horrible illness eventually find positivity in their situation. In many cases, they inspire the world with their amazing approach to life.

Someone always has it worse off than you. So, stay positive and embrace the opportunity, wonder, and magic in your life. Learn from your hardships. Keep moving forward. You won’t always have control over what life throws your way. However, you always have control over how you handle it. Your thoughts and emotions are not owned by anyone—only you.

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Have you experienced growth in happiness and positivity? Why not lend a helping hand and share your comments, thoughts and stories with our little tribe, because you have the power to inspire people who might just need a little boost.

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  1. Thank you for sharing. I have been on a self-help journey and I have been soaking up all I can about raising my vibrations and becoming more positive. Your articles have shined a lot of light on the subject for me!

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